Reconnecting with an old flame

I'm currently dating someone I like...I really like him. Lets call him Ife. I met Ife on a dating app sometime in August, and...we'll save this gist for another time. Let me talk about someone else.  

A few months after my daughter was born, I relocated to a different state because, again, life happened and I wanted to pick the pieces of my life and start all over. 

Along the line, I think it in 2016, I reconnected with an Ex. We started talking, and he told me he also had a kid, a daughter. Lets call the Ex, Chike. 

Chike and I met in College and were together for a few years. Back then, our friends thought we were  going to end up together. I remember Chike transferred to a different University, almost two (2) hours away but we kept the relationship going. 

We eventually broke up. 

Chike's daughter and my daughter were a few months apart, at that time, both our kids were 2-years-old. We connected on a different level, we had history, we both had kids, so there was a connection. 

We started talking, I think he wanted us to rejuvenate our college love affair. But then, I wasn't looking for a relationship, I was focused on my career because, not only did I have two (2) mouths to feed, I also set a certain goal for myself that I wanted to accomplish.

One day, Chike mentioned that the kid he had with his babymama should have been with me. Crazy right? Yes, I thought so too. First of all, I dislike the name, babymama.

I did like Chike, but remember the saying, "Exes are exes for a reason" I called it off with Chike. 

Why? He said as soon as his daughter's mom told him she was pregnant, he ghosted her. 

Shocked? Me too. 

His reason: She told him she was pregnant when she was 7-months gone.

My response: Bullshit...So?

His response: He's wasn't were he wanted to be in life and couldn't afford to raise a kid.

Chike avoided his daughter's mom, did not take on the responsibility, and stated he was scared to tell his mom he had a kid. I'm not been judgmental, but that's a major RED FLAG for me. His daughter's mom consistently sent him pictures of their beautiful kid and shared updates as well. She was a nice lady because I'll never do that. It was a major turn off for me; as such, that was the beginning of the end for us.

As a single mom, I want a man who is true to himself and will accept ALL of me. 

I don't think that's too much to ask or do you?